The older I get the more I have this disdain for surrounding myself with only LGBT individuals. I know that sounds crazy but let me explain why.
I’ve been on this scene for perhaps 8 years or so and I’m pretty much able to predict the actions of my gay/ lesbian counterparts. So much so that it really doesn’t add any mystery to the situation. Being of sound Sagittarian mind and body, it is in my nature to want to experience new things and to learn and grow spiritually. I’m not finding that by only associating with one specific group in society. I think that as a lesbian the objective should be to be accepted in society as an equal. So I don’t really go out of my way to separate myself or ostracize myself from the heteros. There are no rainbow decals all over my windshield or bumper nor do I wear these bright ass colors to work on a daily basis. The fact that I am gay,does not make me any more special than the next individual. So why is it that I feel as if we’ve created our own secret society and no one else is allowed in (not even the bi’s)?
Which broaches an additional topic. How is it that lesbians struggle so much for equality yet I’ve had the displeasure of encountering so many who do not like bi-sexuals? How are we to ask for the very same rights that we deny others? It seems totally asinine to me.
2 comments:
I totally feel you. I had a convo with a girl a while ago and she was a stud who loved studs and she was tired of people dogging her. Love is love. Society wants to put labels and we fight against them, but we dog others for their love. I think at one point in my life I liked men and women...I just liked the person, whoever I felt in love with no matter what gender. In some ways I am still that way, but right now I can't see myself with a man, but I try not to say never, life can be surprising.
Very good post. I 100% agree with you. While I admit to being more comfortable around other women who understand and share my sexual orientation, I am beginning to feel a bit stifled and stuck...if that's the proper word to use. The lesbian community here (in the San Francisco Bay area) is large but at the same time, feels so small and I feel like i'm missing out on something by hanging out only with lesbian or bi women. Not too sure what to do about that besides deliberately making friends outside of the "rainbow clique". Odd thing is that everyone i've met lately turns out to be gay!!! lol.
And as far as the prejudice within our own community, its so sad and a shame. Lesbians who feel as if they're better than bisexual women for one reason or another are in la la land and need to wake up.
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